Sex can be romantic and fun at the start of a relationship, but over time, couples can fall into a rut and experience boredom while they’re being intimate in bed. According to a recent survey, 41 percent of women are dissatisfied with their sex life, and three in five believe that it needs to be spiced up. Moreover, only 17 percent of women and about 20 percent of men talk about their bedroom issues with their significant other to make things better. If things are starting to get boring in the bedroom, it’s time to make a few changes to bring the passion back into your sex life. Here are some easy ways to spice up your vanilla sex life and bring excitement back into the bedroom.
Explore Your Kinks
Taking the first step to initiate a change in your sex life requires open communication, so have a talk over wine and some appetizers, making sure that you’re focused on each other while you’re having a conversation. Quiz each other on what turns you on and see if you can explore your kinks in the bedroom. Don’t go from zero to freaky though– this means that if both of you have been used to vanilla sex for a while, doing something unusual just for the sake of doing it may not be the way to go if you want to heat things up in the bedroom. The key is to start slow.
For instance, if both of you are willing to try some BDSM but don’t want to try flogging with whips or floggers yet, start with the lightest form of consensual impact play, such as spanking using your hands. Or if you notice that your partner likes to be babied and taken care of, perhaps she may have a hidden daddy kink, so ask if she wants to role play as such, then go ahead and let her call you daddy in bed. After kinky play, make sure to check in on each other just to make sure that both of you are satisfied and comfortable.
A Little Dirty Talk Goes A Long Way
For most women, there are few things that are hotter than a man who knows how to dirty talk. But don’t watch porn to get pointers on how to do it as there’s a good chance that you’ll end up turning her off. To really get your partner excited, try telling her what you want to do to her in detail. Also, don’t forget to let her know how much you want her or how much she turns you on.
Don’t hesitate to be vocal while you’re in bed, and let her know how she makes you feel while you’re being intimate. It’s also a good idea to give her tons of praise, so tell her that she’s beautiful and sexy. As you get comfortable doing dirty talk, feel free to change it up depending on your lovemaking, so if both of you are feeling a bit wild, the talk can get a little raunchier and dirtier.
Make Time For Sex
Don’t treat sex as another chore or something that you have to do. Set aside time for unhurried, passionate sex, and if you’re having trouble doing that because of kids or work, then find a way to make it happen. Maybe sometimes, you’ll need to stay up really late so you can do it without being interrupted, or perhaps you can surprise your significant other with a weekend getaway so you can have some time for intimacy. Making an effort to make your loved one feel special can also bring the spark back into your sex life, so always make time for sexy time.
Turn your sex life from vanilla to super spicy with these sexy tips. You’re sure to bring back the fire in your relationship, and feel a lot more satisfied and happy while you’re being intimate with your special lady.