The most amazing thing about life is that from one day to the next you may just find that being single is no longer an option and in a heartbeat you’ve met that person you’ve dreamt of. You would all agree at some point through out your life, we do think of having someone to share our inner feelings with. Why do we have this natural instinct within us? For me I have come to realise that sometimes you can achieve certain successes along side someone who is there as your support system. Meaning when the right person comes along and you’re open to the likely hood of joining them on your quest for greatness. I speak this from first hand experiences.
So what does one wear on their first date? What is deemed as looking far to casual or dressing up far too smartly? How much gel does one need to spike up that hair let alone, polish those shoes. Crickey, should I be wearing new shoes or is that an overkill? It’s a tricky one for sure. So let me inspire you in saying that making the effort can never come across as being too desperate.
Choosing Your Location
So let’s say you have chosen to take the person out for dinner. In this case you have to understand what the restaurant standard is all about. Choose a place you know has good food and you feel in control. This is about being you and showing your potential soul mate what kind of person you are. Remember if they are the one, it will be always in their memory. I hear it time and time again about how you should be yourself and that the person needs to know what you are really like. It does not matter what you wear or if you are making an effort for that date that you will come across as a try hard. Trust me this is not the time to have that attitude. Make it count, make the effort because everyone is worth dressing up for.
Jacket Dating Power
Depending on the season you can never go wrong with choosing to wear a jacket. So if it’s day wear, a nice summer blazer or denim jacket is a nice casual balance. But if you are hanging about till the evening then go for a nice blazer. Don’t worry you will have plenty of time to show the other side of your personality. When choosing your jacket make sure it’s clean, the colour suits you and it fits well. Yes your future partner is more observing than you think.
Jeans or Chinos
Now again depending on the weather, I would keep those legs covered, unless your date is on the beach. Even then a nice pair of linen trousers will seem like you are making an effort whatever your intention is on that date. If you are someone that can’t keep control of your food then choose dark colours and I would avoid white at all costs. Make sure you clothes are ironed and your message is showing the other person that they are worth the effort no matter what the outcome maybe.
Cover Your Toes
For me it’s important that your feet are well covered. If you choose to expose them, make sure your nails are cut and your dead skin is gone. It’s one big put off trust me, neglecting your feet no matter how attractive you think you are. Shoes tell a person a lot about who you are. So wear ones that state who you are. Even if you choose to buy a new pair. It shows you really care and are taking that person very seriously. Again make sure everything matches well. This is not about over dressing, this is about being casually smart. If you find the clothes that you are choosing to wear have seen better days, then take action. Don’t take what you choose to wear can not make a difference to the other person. Clothes can be very cheap these days don’t let that be an excuse to not spend some cash.
T- Shirts Versus A Shirt
Well for me I would stick to a shirt only because it demonstrates that you value that person. For me T-Shirts can be worn any-time any day. But when it comes down to your first date a shirt for me shows you care. You can never go wrong wearing a nice shirt. Another option is a vest over a shirt or your t-shirt it’s a nice casual balance between well dressed and super edgy. Also don’t shy from sweaters as well they are super attractive and if you have a well defined body go nuts.
Whatever your style make an effort regarding your hairstyle and facial hair. Don’t over gel and don’t under groom. This is about your face. Your partner is focusing right there. Don’t shave just an hour before you meet up. Groom the night before. Keep some deodorant tucked away in your mans bag for those hot and sweaty awkward moments before and over dinner.
Quirky and Flirty
Choose a nice ice-breaker. Choose some accessories like a scarf, pocket square, belts with buckles (to express your hobbies), cuff-links, ring or bracelet. I always make a first impression on what I am wearing that is not obvious at first glance. I find in meetings this is a nice gentle way to make the person feel relaxed and comfortable. Again if this ends up being your soul mate it will be one of those memorable moments of why you are still together today. Don’t live in fear of rejection enjoy your date and no matter who you are we all do judge a book by its cover. Make the effort and dress to impress.