It may be hard to believe if you are now in your twenties or thirties, but one day you’ll be middle-aged. At what age that is will be different for different people, but maturity should certainly not mean giving up on yourself – or other people.
Here are seven tips for mature men to ensure we don’t fade into the background just because we’ve got a few miles on the clock. Nor get noticed for the wrong reasons!
Make an Effort
Thinking about how you look, how you dress and how you conduct yourself matters just as much as we get older – perhaps more so if the looks and the body can no longer be counted on as primary assets. You should have reached a stage where you have developed your personal style and understand what does and doesn’t work for you. Don’t get sloppy. It’s too easy to think it doesn’t matter anymore. It does. With clothes, the basics of fit, quality, and style remain key, but there are other areas where You will improve the lives of people around you and thus improve your own.
Shoes Your Most Important Item Of Clothing
The older you get, the more important comfortable shoes become. But they need to set the tone for your personal style. Don’t resort to cheap trainers. They just say that you have bad feet. If you were smart enough to buy good leather shoes when younger and looked after them they will by now fit you like a second skin, look great and mark you as a man of taste.
If you need to find something more casual, deck shoes in summer or moccasin equivalents in winter can be forgiving and still look good if matched with the right outfit.
More than anything a bright smile and a willingness to engage with people will take you further than any item of clothing or grooming tip. But that means having good teeth. If they are in bad condition, get them fixed. You’re old enough to get over a fear of dentists and anyway, treatment is rarely painful nowadays.
Once they’re fixed (don’t go for artificially white teeth) look after them. A good mouth means fresh breath.
Cleanliness Is Next To Friendliness
Together with bad breath, BO is your biggest enemy. So keep yourself clean (deodorant and anti-perspirant cannot substitute for soap and water) AND keep your clothes clean. It’s easy for us to lose the sense of how our clothes smell as we age. The cleaner we are, the better our clothes smell.
Don’t overdo the cologne. A diminishing sense of smell may underestimate the strength and can put people off.
What Did You Say?
If you need a hearing aid, get one. Men are notoriously vain but modern hearing aids are so discreet, people probably won’t realise you’re wearing them. Far preferable to shouting and asking people to repeat everything.
Hearing loss doesn’t mean you’re decrepit. Trying to live without aid when you need it just marks you out as dumb.
Through A Glass Darkly
Failing eyesight is almost inevitable as we age, but glasses (or laser treatment if you can afford and trust your surgeon) are essential. You’ll need them to make sure you don’t miss anywhere when shaving as well as to read menus and check bills in restaurants.
The good news is that glasses can be very stylish accessories that make you look intelligent and distinguished if you find the styles that suit you. Have enough pairs so they are always to hand and match your outfits.
Accessorise To Impress
As with your glasses, your other accessories should mark you out as someone who has learned to appreciate the good things in life. We’re not talking flash, just demonstrating your taste and understanding of quality. A discreet fountain pen, a crisp laundered cotton handkerchief, a great bridle leather belt with silver buckle: these are the sort of details that get noticed.
About the author: Kevin Drayton is a blogger, writer, architect and designer. He writes on living well for mature men at www.bestrevenge.co.uk